The Importance of Connecting in Community with Fellow HSP’s
I am reminded again and again and again the value of consistently connecting with other highly sensitive people. The resonance that builds within me with every conversation. Being seen without feeling misunderstood. Not having to explain all the nuanced layers, but enjoying the conversation around what the layers are to affirm that we aren’t in isolation from all the noticing and awareness that exists because of our sensitivities. The value of being reminded of the gifts sensitivity brings - and also being able to commiserate around how it can, at times, be exhausting and overwhelming. And, being able to share in the wisdom of ways to really care for ourselves in a culture that doesn’t encourage rest.
Most, if not all, of my interactions with other HSP’s have been deeply energizing and leave me with a feeling of a fuller heart and appreciation that HSP’s exist in the world at all.
When I realized high sensitivity was a “thing” I started trying to make connections in my mind of who I may already know that could be a HSP so I could explore my experiences and deepen my understandings with others. It wasn’t very surprising how my few closest friends are all sensitive - maybe not all highly so- but each do value and enjoy heart-to-heart connecting.
Luckily my own coach is a connector type and she generously introduced me to a few different people, over time, that I was able to meet over a video chat or phone call here and there. I noticed that even in each first meeting with these folks I felt this alive sense of safety and grounding that mostly just isn’t initially there with non-HSP folks I’ve interacted with. I can feel it in my body as I recall that feeling even as I write this - like a sigh of relief. I have created some deep friendships where I feel a sense of refuge and joy. What I have recognized over time is the immense value and energy I gain when I prioritize consistent connecting with a even one friend who shares this trait.
When it may not be the time to connect in real-time, I have found other resources to listen to, like a podcast, or to read. All of which can also help in times of feeling disconnected or isolated or when it’s just not an ideal time to talk with someone on the phone or in person.
If you aren’t aware of them already, I want to share some resources with you that I have found particularly resonant. If you have any idea, people or resources you know of that other HSP’s would find helpful - I encourage you to share them below.
The Meeting of Minds Podcast: The HSP Connection Mini Series
Julie Bjelland - HSP Resources Page and Online Community
Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World By Jenn Granneman and Andre Sólo
If you want 1:1 support in exploring your high sensitivity - especially in the areas of self-care and connecting, I would love to take a call with you to see if working together feels good.
